If I’m being honest, I want to be in love.

Many of us have asked, pleaded, and even begged God to give us someone by whom we would feel known and desired. And year after year the silence seems deafening.

Singleness became a daunting journey for me as high school drew to an end and my college years began. I found myself insecure, impatient, and overwhelmed with thoughts of loneliness.

When people talked about relationships in front of me I would find myself feeling uncomfortable. What would people think of me when they discovered that I was not only single, but had never even been asked out on a date?

The fear of not having a boyfriend was emotionally crippling to me, and waged war against my identity.

This fear was deeply rooted in my heart, until I began to earnestly seek answers through the Word. As a result, I began to feel a desire to know more. That is when I truly experienced Jesus.

Fully God and fully human, Jesus is the only mediator able to restore a personal and eternal relationship between us and God. It is because of Jesus that I understand what love means. I am privileged to experience it daily.

“God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him, This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.” 1 John 4:8-10

God is love. What a beautiful promise. I need that promise in my life. It sustains me.

Reading through these scriptures radically changed my perception of what I had been hoping for my whole life.

My prayer of “I want to be in love” transitioned to “I want to be in Christ”.

Today I remind my soul to cherish the treasure I receive by God’s grace alone. I want my heart to beat faster for my Heavenly Father. I recognize His pursuit of me when I read the Word and I want to give Him my whole heart.

When I centered my life on Christ, I realized that I am fully known, fulfilled, pursued, and desired by Him. Now that is something to celebrate! This season of singleness allowed my eyes to turn to Him! Christ gives me purpose. I am complete in Him. He is enough.

Through Jesus my longing for a man has been fulfilled. God loves me so much and had answered my prayer before I was even aware.

This unconditional love is offered to every person. Whenever we feel disheartened by our singleness, let us be encouraged to know that our value is not determined by anyone or anything but Christ alone.

1 Corinthians 7:32 says, “The one who is unmarried is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit.”

On hard days when I feel waves of discouragement, I remember this verse and I am reminded to be content and joyful in singleness. During these seasons let us continue to grow in our foundation of faith, trust, patience, perseverance, joy, and praise of Him. We must strive to bring the message of the hope we’ve found in Him to the ends of the earth.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6

While we are growing in our devotion to the Lord let us also trust God’s timing. Recently, a friend encouraged me with these words;

“Don't give up, don't settle for less, don't rush into a season before it's time nor leave the past too soon. God's timing and provision is perfect, His thoughts and ways are so much better than our own. He's got you. He's for you. He's with you. You are seen and heard. You are not forgotten. He will give you the strength to worship in the waiting and a humble heart to receive all that He has in store.”

Being single can be tough. If I’m being honest, I want to be in love. However, I am learning to trust God by keeping my eyes on the One who is our source of everlasting love—Jesus.

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